“Take a day off for my sister’s dog’s funeral”—husband calls wife a “psychopath” after she refuses [What do you think?]

[Financial News] A woman’s story has come to light after she reportedly refused her husband’s demand that she take a day off work and even wear mourning clothes to attend her sister-in-law’s pet dog’s funeral, only to be verbally abused and called a “psychopath.” Her husband also demanded that she read a eulogy at the funeral, and her mother-in-law reportedly criticized her as well.
On the 9th, a post appeared on an online community saying, “My husband told me to wear mourning clothes and read a eulogy at my sister-in-law’s dog’s funeral, then verbally abused me, calling me a psychopath.”
According to A, an office worker in a dual-income household who is in her third year of marriage, her unmarried sister-in-law in her 40s recently lost a pet dog she had cherished and raised like her own child.
A said her sister-in-law had always been especially devoted to the dog. She said her sister-in-law even visited A’s in-laws’ home during holidays with a stroller made for the dog and did not help prepare holiday meals because she was caring for it.
A said she sent her sister-in-law a message of comfort, saying, “I completely understand that you’re sad, since you’ve lost a dog you raised for so long.” She also transferred 100,000 won in condolence money, telling her to make sure she ate and took care of her health.
The conflict began the next day when her husband asked her to attend the dog’s funeral. He said his older sister planned to hold the funeral in a VIP room at a top-tier pet funeral home on the outskirts of the city, and told A to take a day off work and attend.
Her husband even dictated what she should wear to the funeral. A said, “He even told me to wear a full black mourning outfit, dressed in black from head to toe, and to wear a black ribbon too.” She added, “I was so stunned that I asked whether I really had to take a day off work and wear mourning clothes just to attend a dog’s cremation as his sister-in-law, and he flew into a rage.”
Her husband said the dog had been like a child to his older sister and demanded that A take part in every step of the funeral. According to A, he said, “To my sister, the dog was just like her own child. She’s on the verge of fainting, so how hurt do you think she’d be if this [expletive], who’s supposed to be family, acted so insensitively? Come in mourning clothes, bow twice, take part in the reading of the memorial letter and the candlelight prayer, and do it all before you leave.”
Her husband reportedly even sent her, via KakaoTalk, a script for the eulogy she was supposed to read at the funeral. A said, however, that she could not take a day off because of an important work presentation.
A claimed, “He’d even sent me the script over KakaoTalk, telling me to read a eulogy for a dead dog at the funeral. Tomorrow is the day of our division’s key quarterly briefing, which our division head is presiding over, so I absolutely can’t take a day off. When I said I’d stop by briefly, he called his mother and even tattled on me, saying, ‘I can’t stand living with a cold-blooded psychopath like you—you give me chills.’”
A said she had been criticized not only by her husband but by her mother-in-law as well. She said, “Now my mother-in-law has joined in, making a scene and calling me ‘a heartless [expletive].’ Does refusing to wear mourning clothes and read a eulogy at my sister-in-law’s dog’s funeral make me a psychopath?” She expressed her frustration.
Internet users who read the story criticized the husband’s and mother-in-law’s demands as excessive. They reacted with comments such as, “How have you lived with people like that all this time?” and “Is this some kind of over-the-top drama?”


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