“You said we’d get married if I had an abortion” ... Woman faces trespassing complaint after abortion and breakup [What do you think?]

[Financial News] A woman in her 30s who was preparing to marry says she was left feeling aggrieved after undergoing an abortion at her boyfriend’s urging, only to be told he was ending the relationship and then face a complaint alleging trespassing. She says she went to his home because she was worried about his safety, and was then reported.
On the 5th, JTBC’s “Scandal Supervisor” reported that A, a woman in her 30s, had developed a romantic relationship with a man who had previously worked at the same company, and the two were preparing to marry.
A’s boyfriend, B, was reportedly popular with his coworkers for his good looks and stylish clothes. A was initially uncomfortable with dating someone from work, but eventually began seeing B after he repeatedly and actively expressed his interest in her.
After they became a couple, B posted photos of their dates on social media (SNS) to express his affection. B was also the one who first proposed marriage. Saying, “I’ve met someone I want to spend the rest of my life with,” he went so far as to book a wedding venue.
During the wedding preparations, however, B wanted to put off having children for as long as possible. He also kept delaying introducing A to his mother, telling A only that he had already received permission to marry.
Later, A told B she was pregnant, but his reaction was not what she had expected. “When I told him the test showed two lines, he didn’t seem happy at all and just kept sighing,” A recounted.
B reportedly did not properly care for his pregnant girlfriend, saying he was not ready to become a father. A said that even when she asked her boyfriend to get her some fruit and he refused, she once went to the market herself in tears and bought peaches to eat.
Contrary to B’s claim that he had received permission to marry, his mother did not even know about their plans. When A met her in person, the mother reportedly opposed the marriage, saying, “I’ve never even heard anything about you getting married,” and demanded that A terminate the pregnancy.
Although B had promised to persuade his mother, he reportedly told A that the child she was expecting would be “a child no one would bless.”
A had not wanted an abortion at first, but eventually gave in to her boyfriend’s persuasion. B promised they would marry, saying, “Let’s have a child later and get married first.” Believing him, A decided to have the procedure.
After the abortion, A went through a difficult time, feeling guilt and a sense of loss. Her boyfriend did not comfort her and reportedly remained indifferent, even going on trips.
A claimed that whenever she told her boyfriend how distressed she was, he would ask whether she had not chosen the procedure herself. “When I cried and confronted him, he said, ‘You were the one who terminated the pregnancy. Did I threaten you with a knife? You chose it.’ When this kept happening, I couldn’t live normally,” she said.
The wedding preparations also came to a halt. B avoided talking about them and contacted A less often, eventually telling her they should break up. He later sent her a text saying, “I can’t take it anymore. Don’t contact me again. Take care.”
After B told her they were breaking up, A went to his home because she was worried he might take his own life. But the front-door passcode had already been changed. When he did not answer her calls or the doorbell, she tried the doorknob, but the door would not open.
B, however, took issue with A’s visit and her attempt to turn the doorknob, and filed a complaint against her alleging trespassing. He reportedly also told people around him that he had ended the relationship because A had assaulted and harassed him.
Seung Jae-hyeon, a senior researcher at the Korean Institute of Criminology and Justice (KICJ), advised A to end her relationship with her ex-boyfriend. He said it would be best for her not to visit B’s home or contact him directly anymore.
He said A should fully explain during the police investigation why she went to the house. He explained that she should clearly establish that she visited only because she was worried about B’s safety and had no intention of trespassing.


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