“Why Is a Former Female Employee Coming to See My Husband?” ... Unmarried Woman Complains After Wife’s Text [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] An unmarried woman complained after visiting a married male former coworker with whom she had remained friends after leaving her job and being asked by his wife to limit contact. The woman said they had met with another colleague and that she had no romantic feelings for him at all, but reactions online were largely critical.
On the 5th, a post titled “Am I not allowed to see a close married male coworker at all after leaving my job?” appeared on the online community Bobaedream.
The woman who posted, identified as A, said she was unmarried and that she had been close with two coworkers at a former workplace: one married woman and a married man identified as B.
A had become friends with B before he got married and attended his wedding. Even after the wedding, the two continued their relationship, having meals after work with another female coworker and exchanging birthday gifts.
The two continued to keep in touch outside work. When B was preparing to change jobs, A encouraged him, saying, “You had a good dream, so you’ll get the new job.” After hearing that he had been accepted, she also sent him a message saying, “I was looking for only your name on the list of people changing jobs.”
Recently, after work, A went to meet B with another married female coworker. She drove for more than an hour to get to the meeting place, and the three of them ate pasta before going to a karaoke room and a café. They headed back at around 11 p.m.
A got home around midnight and messaged B on KakaoTalk to let him know she had arrived. When B thanked her for coming from far away, A replied, “Don’t feel burdened.” She later heard from B’s wife.
B’s wife said she knew that her husband and A were friends, but felt uncomfortable with A traveling a long way to meet him even after leaving the company and contacting him late at night.
She sent A a message saying, “I know you and my husband are close, but from my perspective as his spouse, I find it quite uncomfortable that you went out of your way to come all the way to a distant area to meet him even after leaving the company, and that you even messaged him to say you had arrived after midnight.”
The wife told A that she had raised the same issue with her husband and asked A to respect the boundaries of their relationship. She added, “I believe my husband is also responsible for not maintaining clear boundaries, so I made my position clear to him as well. Going forward, I hope you’ll respect the boundaries of our family.”
However, A said she thought of B only as a close coworker and seemed unable to understand his wife’s request. She said, “Did I cross a line? It’s just because he’s a colleague I’m really grateful to and close with. I have absolutely no romantic feelings for him—not even 1 percent; he’s just a colleague,” then asked, “Was it a mistake to keep in touch? Are we not supposed to meet just because I left the company?”
She also expressed her dissatisfaction, saying, “I think his wife was a little rude.”
Online, most comments criticized A’s behavior. Users responded, “That’s really rude. I’m talking about you, A—not B’s wife,” and “His wife says she’s uncomfortable, so what are you even asking?”
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