Mother-in-law-to-be secretly calls her future daughter-in-law to meet without her son's knowledge: “Don't get on your high horse just because you earn a little more” [What do you think?]

[Financial News]  A woman's story has emerged: her prospective mother-in-law allegedly called her aside without her son's knowledge, pressed her about her salary, and told her, “Don't act high and mighty just because you earn a little more.” 

On the 30th of last month, a post titled “They tell me not to make my husband feel small just because I earn a little more. I haven't done that, and I don't intend to...” appeared on the workplace community Remember.
A, who says she is due to get married early next year, began by saying, “A few days ago, my boyfriend's mother contacted me and asked to meet separately without my boyfriend knowing.”
She thought it was a chance to get to know each other beforehand, but her prospective mother-in-law reportedly immediately brought up salaries, asking, “I looked it up, and I heard the average salary at your company is around this much. Is that right? How much do you make?”
Her prospective mother-in-law said, “You seem to earn more than my son, but he doesn't seem to know exactly how much you make,” and added, “When you get married, of course you'll manage your money together, but you mustn't lord it over your husband or make him feel inferior just because you earn a little more.” She continued, “Even if men and women are equal these days, don't you think a family is harmonious when the man of the house feels respected? Sometimes you have to say, ‘Yes, yes,’ and let your husband have his way.” She reportedly said, “I asked to meet because I wanted to tell you to be careful before you disclose your salaries to each other.”
A said, “She put it carefully, but to sum it up, that was what it came down to,” adding, “I love food, but I could barely get my meal down.”
She added, “This was only the second time we'd met, and the first time we'd met alone. I was so taken aback by everything: her dropping all formality and speaking casually to me right off the bat, looking up and asking about my salary—which I hadn't even told my boyfriend about yet—and telling me not to make my boyfriend feel inferior.”
She said, “My boyfriend is a really good person, and I've never cared about or asked whether he earns more or less than I do. Even if he earned less than me, I would never look down on him or think less of him, but hearing her say that makes me feel like something is off.”
She continued, “If I tell my friends, they'll say, ‘Think it over again,’ and it's not something I can tell my boyfriend either, so after agonizing over it, I'm sharing it here.”
She added, “My boyfriend is such a good person that I have no intention of calling off the wedding,” but also said, “This has come up even though I hadn't given it any thought, and now I'm feeling a little frustrated. Only now do I realize that marriage involves the families, too.”

Netizens who read the story reacted with comments including, “What matters is how her boyfriend responds when he finds out,” “Something like that couldn't come out of nowhere. Her boyfriend probably casually mentioned her salary at home in passing,” “If his mother went so far as to ask for a separate meeting just to say that, she'll probably pick on her over every little thing once they get married,” “She needs to tell her boyfriend. If she keeps quiet about it and moves on now, he may find it hard to handle things if another problem comes up later,” “A conflict with her future mother-in-law seems likely,” and “Don't ignore your feeling that something is off.”
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