“She brings side dishes and even changes the towels and detergent”... Mother-in-law’s behavior has continued for 7 years [What do you think?]

[The Financial News] A daughter-in-law’s story has come to light: Her mother-in-law comes over to bring side dishes, then changes things around the house to suit her own preferences. The same thing reportedly happens every month in the home where the daughter-in-law has been managing the household herself for seven years.
On the 6th, A, who posted on an online community, described what had been happening: “My mother-in-law comes over once a month to bring side dishes, and every time she visits, something in our household gets changed.”
They even had different ways of organizing towels. A said, “I fold the towels three times, roll them up, and put them in a basket, but my mother-in-law says she doesn’t like the way they look, so she takes them all out, folds them into squares, and puts them in the cabinet. The next morning, my husband asks where the towels are.”
The towels weren’t the only things her mother-in-law touched. A said that even the way the refrigerator was organized and the detergent they used had been changed. She wrote, “I’d organized everything by section in clear containers with labels, but when she put in the side-dish containers, she peeled all the labels off. She laughed and said, ‘What is this, a laboratory?’” She added, “I use unscented detergent because of the baby’s clothes, but she bought the heavily scented detergent she uses, left it at our house, and moved my detergent to a corner of the balcony.”
They also had different standards when it came to snacks for the child. A said, “I only give my child things like fruit or rice puffs, but whenever my mother-in-law visits, she always takes out a bag of candy and a bag of snacks to give them. If I say no, she gets upset and asks if a grandmother can’t even give her grandchild a snack.”
A said this was not a one-off but something that happened every month. “If it had happened once or twice, I could have laughed it off, but this happens every month,” she lamented. She said that even when she complained to her husband, he replied, “Mom is just trying to help; she doesn’t mean any harm.”
She continued, “My husband doesn’t say anything while my mother-in-law is there, but after she leaves, he says, ‘You can just put things back the way they were.’ But I’m the one who has to put them back every month.”
Many commenters who saw the post said A should clearly state her boundaries herself. One commenter said, “You’ve stayed quiet for seven years, so she keeps doing it. Tell her to stop.” Another said, “Tell her not to interfere in how you run your household,” adding, “Tell her she doesn’t need to bring side dishes either.”
Some also said the husband should step in more actively. One commenter asked, “Why doesn’t your husband stop her? He should tell her not to do it.” Another wrote, “Make your husband put everything back the way it was,” adding, “Men act like they’re so generous when it doesn’t inconvenience them. He needs to feel inconvenienced himself.”
Others said the mother-in-law should respect her daughter-in-law’s way of life. One commenter said, “It’s my household, and I do things the way I want,” and criticized the mother-in-law as “out of line for going so far as to change everything in her daughter-in-law’s home.” Other comments included, “Be sure to tell her it’s your household,” and, “Once your son is married, you should see him as having a separate household.”


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