"Don't Make Such a Fuss"—Woman Preparing for Pregnancy Says She Feels Frustrated by Her Mother's Remarks [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News]  A woman in her 30s who was preparing for pregnancy and childbirth said she felt frustrated after disagreeing with her mother over supplements and a postpartum care center. She said her mother told her that she could simply rest at home instead of staying at a postpartum care center and sought advice from others.
The story became known after a post titled "Is a Postpartum Care Center Essential? My Mother Tells Me Not to Do Anything" was uploaded to an online community on the 28th.
A woman identified only as A, in her early 30s, said she had been married for two years and was planning to have a child with her husband. She said, "I've been married for two years, and my husband and I are planning to have a child. These days, don't people take supplements and things like that when they get pregnant?"
Feeling that she lacked information about pregnancy and childbirth, A sought advice from her mother, who had previously worked as a postpartum aide.
However, A said her mother responded that there was no need to take supplements separately. According to A, her mother said, "Don't make such a fuss. It's not like we live in a time when people can't afford to eat. I gave birth to you without taking any of that. Don't bother taking unnecessary things. It could actually be dangerous."
The two also disagreed over whether to use a postpartum care center. A's mother said, "A postpartum care center is a waste of money. You can just rest at home with an electric heating pad, and I'll take care of you, so give that money to me instead."
When A said she would discuss the matter with her sister-in-law, her mother tried to dissuade her from doing that as well. She said, "Why ask your sister-in-law about something so pointless? Don't contact your in-laws over things like that. Nothing good will come of it."
As her mother's reactions continued, A said she felt frustrated. She said, "She criticizes me whenever I say anything. If what she says is true, I don't want to spend a large sum to stay at a postpartum care center either. But some people say you absolutely have to go, while others say you don't need to. Isn't it better to take supplements?" She then asked for others' opinions.
Online commenters said people should make decisions based on their own circumstances rather than relying solely on the opinions of those around them. One user advised, "Have your own opinion. If you don't know, consult a professional. There's no need to be swayed by what people around you say."
Another user said the person concerned should make the final decision, writing, "You can raise a child with outside help, but pregnancy and childbirth are solely your responsibility. I would seek advice on how to protect myself, but the choice and responsibility belong solely to me."


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