"They Told Me to Send Only My Husband—I'm Hurt," Newlywed Shares Her First Holiday Dilemma [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A newlywed woman facing her first traditional holiday after marriage said she was hurt after her mother-in-law told her, "Send only my son."
On the 22nd, a post titled "Mother-in-Law Who Doesn't Want Her Daughter-in-Law to Visit During the Holiday" was published on an online community. A said, "I was raised by my grandmother from a young age, so I like caring for older people and spending time with my family in a lively household. Before I got married, I also dreamed of having a daughter-like daughter-in-law."
A, who got married in May, said she heard her mother-in-law's remarks while discussing the holiday plans with her husband. Her mother-in-law had told her husband, "Come alone." When her husband asked his mother whether A had done something wrong, she explained that she simply wanted to see her son because they would all be tired, and that her daughter-in-law should go to her own parents' home to rest.
A said she called her mother-in-law directly to ask about the holiday visit. However, her mother-in-law replied, "I'll talk to your husband," and A claimed that she later told her husband to come alone.
A also said that her husband and mother-in-law had not always had a good relationship. "When I look at my husband, he seems to have no concern for his mother, to the point that I wonder how a child can behave this way, but when I hear his side, I can also understand why," A said. "His mother complained whenever he contacted her, and even when we visited together, she seemed aloof, as if something displeased her."
A said that despite their relationship, she had always tried to treat her mother-in-law well.
A said she found it difficult to accept her mother-in-law's remarks. "No matter how I think about it, I can't see it in a positive light, and I feel very hurt," she said. "It can only be interpreted as meaning that she simply doesn't want to see her daughter-in-law." She continued, "I got married this May, and I don't know how much more I should have done. Above all, I don't know what to tell my parents. Are there families where the husband's family tells the couple to go separately to their respective parents' homes for the holiday?"
Many online commenters said there was no need to view the mother-in-law's words only negatively. One commenter said, "If the relationship between the son and his mother isn't good, there's no need to insert yourself between them," while another said, "Wouldn't this actually allow each of them to spend the holiday comfortably with their own parents?"
Others, however, said it was understandable for the daughter-in-law to feel hurt after being told not to come, especially during the first holiday following her marriage.


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