"My Ex-Girlfriend from Three Years Ago Is Getting Married": Man in His 30s Wonders Whether to Send Wedding Gift Money [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A man in his 30s has reportedly been debating whether to send wedding gift money to his ex-girlfriend after belatedly learning through social media that she was getting married.

On the 15th, JTBC's 'Sageonbanjang' featured the story of a man in his late 30s, identified as Mr. A, who happened to learn that his ex-girlfriend was getting married.

Mr. A dated a woman nine years younger than him for about three years before they broke up. Even afterward, he would sometimes look up his ex-girlfriend's social media account when he became curious about how she was doing.

Recently, he found wedding photos and a link to a mobile wedding invitation on his ex-girlfriend's social media account. After learning that the wedding would take place the following weekend, Mr. A said he recalled how he had not treated her well during their relationship. He said he wanted to send wedding gift money both to express his regret and to wish her well, saying, "I hope you live happily from now on."

Mr. A shared his concerns with a younger female acquaintance around the same age as his ex-girlfriend. She tried to dissuade him, saying, "Why would you send wedding gift money to an ex-girlfriend?"

The acquaintance took issue with the fact that he had learned about the wedding through social media despite not being invited. She pointed out, "If you weren't invited and only saw it on social media, then honestly, that's snooping," adding, "From a woman's perspective, it could even feel a little like stalking."

Experts were divided on the matter. Current-affairs commentator Hyung Jin Choi said it would be better not to send the money, noting that the ex-girlfriend had not contacted him directly and that the groom might check who had sent the gift. Psychology professor Sanghee Park explained that if the money contained lingering feelings or regret, it could place a burden on the bride.

Lawyer Jihoon Park, however, took a different view. He said, "I don't think it would be a major problem to do whatever your heart tells you."


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