"My Girlfriend’s Parents Offered Us a 30-Pyeong Apartment, but I Don’t Want It Because of My Pride" [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A man preparing to get married sought advice after rejecting an apartment his girlfriend’s parents offered to provide, saying he wanted to begin married life without their help.

On the 14th, a post titled "I Don’t Like That My Girlfriend’s Parents Want to Provide Us with a Home" was uploaded to the online community Nate Pann.
The poster, identified only as Mr. A, began by saying, "My girlfriend’s family is well-off, while mine is an ordinary working-class family."
He said, "I had already sensed to some extent that her family was well-off because of her job, but as we began discussing marriage, I realized more deeply that they were much wealthier than I had thought. Finding this out has also caused some trouble between us."
He continued, "My girlfriend says she wants to become a full-time homemaker rather than work after we get married. From my perspective, my income alone isn’t enough, so I want her to get a job, but she doesn’t. We just can’t see eye to eye."
Mr. A also said, "Her parents said they would provide an apartment of roughly 30 pyeong in her name when we get married, but honestly, I feel burdened by that. I would rather combine my savings with a loan and move into a jeonse apartment of around 20 pyeong in an outlying area."
He added, "Naturally, my girlfriend hates that idea. She said, ‘Why do you feel burdened when my parents are offering to buy us a 30-pyeong apartment?’ She couldn’t understand me. I want us to start on our own, according to our means, without help from our parents."
Mr. A said, "If we start with such substantial help, I feel our marriage could get off to a bad start. I would feel as though I had done something wrong because I wasn’t good enough, and honestly, my pride won’t allow it. I think my girlfriend doesn’t understand me because she grew up receiving a lot of help from her parents, while I have supported myself through working life."
He continued, "If we had to rely on my prospective father-in-law’s help whenever we faced financial problems, I think I would feel intimidated as the head of the household and as a man. My friends are split evenly: some say I’ll be unable to assert myself after marriage and will be pushed around, while others say I’m literally kicking away a blessing and can’t understand me."
He then sought advice, saying, "I don’t want to break up with my girlfriend. I want her to become independent from her parents and adjust to my financial circumstances, but how can I persuade her that we should live a life in which we solve things on our own?"

After reading the story, online users responded, "It might be best not to get married at all," "Break up, find a woman at your level, and work together to make a living," "If you aren’t ready to embrace good fortune, let it go to someone else who is waiting for it," "This is an inferiority complex," "Why are you trying to drag a woman who has lived comfortably thanks to her parents down to your level?" and "It takes a special talent to kick away your own good fortune."
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