"My Boyfriend of Six Years Was a School Bully"—A Woman's Dilemma Ahead of Marriage [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A woman preparing for marriage is reportedly struggling after learning that her boyfriend of six years had been a perpetrator of school violence in the past.
The story was shared in a post titled "The Person I'm Going to Marry Was a School Bully in His School Days," uploaded to an online community on the 12th.
The author, identified as A, said she met her younger boyfriend through an acquaintance of an acquaintance. She was drawn to his serious demeanor and consistent messages, began dating him, and said they had been together for six years.
According to A, her boyfriend had always been devoted to her throughout their relationship. He accepted her even when she became angry or irritable for no particular reason. She described him as such a kind person that even his friends told her, "You've changed him since you started dating him."
A also noted that her boyfriend had a solid financial foundation. However, she made clear that his financial means were not why she decided to marry him. She said she herself earns an average income comparable to the starting salary at a major corporation through beauty and fashion content on a social networking service (SNS), and plans to expand into fashion- and childcare-related businesses with her boyfriend after giving birth.
What troubled A was her boyfriend's school years. After learning that he had been a perpetrator of school violence in the past, she expressed her discomfort. Her boyfriend then reportedly contacted the former victim directly and apologized in front of A.
The victim who received the apology reportedly responded to the effect that, "Didn't you already apologize?" The victim also reportedly said that there was no need for further contact and that it was fine not to bring up the past again.
A said her boyfriend acknowledges that his actions as a child were wrong. She wrote, "He says that if the victim ever comes looking for him, he will get down on his knees and beg for forgiveness."
A said she had continued dating her boyfriend for six years with the same feelings. She revealed that they are now expecting a child and need to prepare for marriage.
Even so, she could not hide her concern over how much of her boyfriend's past she should accept. A asked, "He's just a capable, devoted younger boyfriend, and it was merely an immature phase in his past, right?"
Most online commenters who read the story responded with concern. Comments included, "I believe people don't change," and, "Isn't she trying to rationalize it somehow and seek validation because she's anxious?"


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