"Whenever We Fight, My Husband Tells His Mother Everything": A Wife Married for 15 Years Shares Her Frustration [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A woman’s story has emerged about how her husband tells his mother about their conflicts whenever they argue, leaving the wife to endure lectures from her mother-in-law.
On the 7th, a post by a woman identified as A, who said she had been married for 15 years and was raising two children, was uploaded to an online community. She confessed, "Whenever I have even a minor disagreement with my husband, he tells his mother everything that happened that day."
According to A, her husband called his mother whenever the couple had an argument. Recently, their voices rose while they were discussing household expenses, and the next morning, her mother-in-law contacted A, she said.
The mother-in-law scolded A during the call. She said, "You must not yell in front of the children" and "A daughter-in-law should also know how to be patient."
A said that although both spouses had raised their voices, her mother-in-law’s intervention made it seem as though she alone was at fault. She said, "We both raised our voices, but once the story reaches my mother-in-law, I always end up being treated as the one at fault," adding, "We had a fight between the two of us, so I don’t understand why I have to explain it to my mother-in-law and be lectured by her as well."
A said she had repeatedly asked her husband not to take their marital problems outside the marriage. She said, "I wish the two of us could resolve our marital problems ourselves," but claimed that her husband responded, "I feel better when I talk to my mother. What’s wrong with that?"
As the conflict continued, A said she began avoiding conversations with her husband altogether. She confessed, "These days, I avoid talking to my husband entirely," adding, "It feels as though there are three people in our marriage."
Opinions among online community users who read the story were divided over the husband’s behavior. One user asked, "Would the husband like it if his wife called her own family every time they fought?" Others advised the wife to respond in the same way if her husband continued to call his family as reinforcements.
Other users criticized the pattern of the mother-in-law repeatedly intervening in the couple’s problems. They said, "Marital arguments should be resolved between the couple," "It is strange that the husband feels better after telling his mother while the wife gets scolded by her mother-in-law," and "The mother-in-law does not need to keep intervening in their marital problems."
However, some argued that it was difficult to blame the husband alone. They countered, "Didn’t the wife also make their marital problems public online?" and "It is hypocritical to view only the husband’s telling his own family as a problem."


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