"My Son Is Too Good for You... A Woman Should Dress Up": Mother-in-Law Criticizes Daughter-in-Law’s Appearance While Grabbing Her Upper-Arm Fat [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A woman’s story about being criticized for her appearance by her mother-in-law for 18 years has sparked public outrage.

On the 2nd, a post titled "A Mother-in-Law Who Says Her Daughter-in-Law Should Dress Up" was uploaded to the online community Nate Pann.
Woman A, who said she has been married for 18 years, began by saying, "Whenever my mother-in-law sees me, she always starts by talking about my appearance."
Woman A confessed, "At first, she told me to lose some weight. After I had my second child, my body hadn’t returned to its previous shape, and when I visited during the holidays, she said, ‘You’ve really become a middle-aged woman.’ I was still swollen after giving birth, so I was a little hurt that those were her first words. But she has always been very blunt, so I laughed it off at the time."
However, the comments about her appearance continued. Woman A said, "Last year, I went to my father-in-law’s birthday celebration wearing a black dress, and she said, ‘Why are you dressed so drably? You’re young, so you should wear something brighter.’ She started criticizing my clothes as soon as I walked through the door, and it really took the wind out of me."
She continued, "During Lunar New Year this year, she said, ‘You should dye your hair. Where do you think you’re going with all that gray hair? When you meet your husband’s coworkers, they all talk about you behind your back.’ My premature gray hair had been bothering me, but when she singled it out and mentioned it in front of other people, my face burned with embarrassment."
She also said, "In the spring, she grabbed the fat on my upper arm and said, ‘You have to take care of yourself to this extent these days. Otherwise, your husband will start looking at other women.’ My sister-in-law told her, ‘Mom, stop,’ but she didn’t stop. Last month, she even laughed and said outright, ‘My son is too good for you.’ The children were all there, too. Later, my older child asked me in the car, ‘Mom, why does Grandma talk like that?’ I didn’t know what to say."
She added, "It’s not as if I never make an effort with my appearance. Before I got married, I liked cosmetics and bought clothes for myself. But when you’re raising children, managing the household, and working, you end up with no time left for yourself."

Woman A said, "My sister-in-law is unmarried and lives alone, but my mother-in-law has never said anything like that to her. Instead, she tells her, ‘Just dress comfortably. Don’t go to the trouble of dressing up.’ I don’t understand what standard she uses to say that a daughter-in-law has to dress up while a daughter can be comfortable."
She continued, "When I tell my husband, he brushes it off by saying, ‘That’s just how my mother talks.’ Thinking about what she might say again this Chuseok is more stressful than preparing the holiday food."
She said, "Last year, I got a new perm before visiting, but she said, ‘If you have money, you should get professional treatments. What kind of perm is that?’ Since she finds fault with everything I do, I’m now tired even of deciding what to wear when I go. After hearing this for 18 years, you’d think I would be used to it by now, but I still cry alone in the car on the way home. Growing older isn’t a crime, so I don’t understand why I keep feeling so pathetic whenever I visit my in-laws."
After reading the story, online users responded, "The husband is at fault here. He should have taken action beforehand to stop her from saying things like that," "Tell her to give you money so you can dress up," "Just let it go in one ear and out the other," and "Go to a dermatologist and a department store and charge everything to your husband’s card."
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