"I’d Rather Stay at a Motel Than Sleep at Your Parents’ House": Husband Struggles After Pregnant Wife’s Remark [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A husband preparing for his first Chuseok after marriage said he was troubled because his pregnant wife refused to stay overnight at his parents’ home. The wife reportedly experienced conflict during the wedding preparations because of her mother-in-law’s controlling behavior and remarks.
On the first day of the month, a post titled “She says she’ll sleep at her parents’ home during Chuseok but doesn’t want to sleep at our home” was published on an online community.
A’s wife, who was preparing for their first holiday after marriage, recently became pregnant. She had experienced conflict with her mother-in-law during the wedding preparations, and A, who knew about it, agreed that they would not stay overnight at his parents’ home during the holiday for his wife’s sake.
A also said he was not particularly comfortable staying at his wife’s parents’ home, but decided to accept it after she explained that it was a family tradition.
After they married, A’s mother repeatedly urged them to stay overnight. A relayed this to his wife. Although she initially accepted, she later said again that she would not sleep at his parents’ home after becoming pregnant.
A said, "Now that she’s pregnant, my wife says she doesn’t want to sleep at our home, even though staying at a nearby motel would be fine."
He said, "From my perspective, if we sleep at my parents’ home, we could just have breakfast and go home. But if we stay at a hotel, we’d have to spend more time with my family and wouldn’t be able to rest. Am I supposed to understand this just because she’s pregnant?"
A also said that they visited his wife’s parents relatively often. He wrote, "We go there even when it isn’t a holiday, and my mother-in-law sometimes brings us side dishes or helps clean the house. But we hardly ever visit my parents’ home unless there’s a family event."
A eventually suggested, "You sleep at your parents’ home during Chuseok, and I’ll sleep at our newlywed home," but said his wife rejected the idea. A then also revealed what his mother had done to his wife in the past.
He said, "My mother has always been controlling. When she was in a bad mood, she would sometimes refuse to let my wife enter the house and make her stand outside, although she doesn’t do that anymore."
Regarding his mother’s inappropriate remarks, A said, "During couples therapy, I apologized to my wife several times on my mother’s behalf." He added, "When my mother made my wife stand outside the house, my wife even once intervened when I became angry with my mother."
However, he said, "She wasn’t this sensitive back then, so although I understand why she’s reacting this strongly now, it’s also difficult for me because it feels as though she’s going to hold things from the past over me for the rest of our lives."
Most online users said they understood the wife’s position. They commented, "You shouldn’t ask a pregnant wife to stay overnight at her in-laws’ home. Doesn’t he think about the baby?", "He should consider his wife’s feelings and position first," and "After reading the entire post, I can understand why the daughter-in-law made that choice."


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