"I'm Going Out to Meet a Man"... Mother-in-Law Suspects Daughter-in-Law Every Time She Leaves Home [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A working woman in her 40s said she is repeatedly suspected of having an affair by her mother-in-law whenever she goes out to meet friends.
On the 26th, a post titled "Afraid My Daughter-in-Law Might Cheat" appeared on an anonymous online community. The woman, identified as A, is in her 40s and works while raising two children. She said, "My children are fairly grown now, so I meet friends once every three or four months just to see them and catch up." She added, "Even if we eat and have coffee, I usually come back within five hours unless something unusual comes up."
What A found most difficult was her mother-in-law's interference. The mother-in-law, who lives in another building in the same apartment complex, reportedly calls her son often to check on her daughter-in-law's schedule. When she learns that A is going out to meet friends, she asks A's husband, "Who are you going to meet?" She also reportedly asks A directly, "Where are you?" and "Why do you meet your friends so often?"
On one Saturday, after finishing work and heading out to meet friends, the comments became even more direct. A said she heard that her mother-in-law told her husband, "She's going out to meet a man. She's out cheating." She said, "My husband apparently told her that wasn't true," and added, "She seems upset that I go out instead of staying home to cook for my child and husband."
There was also a time when she left a drinking session with friends and rushed home unexpectedly. A said her mother-in-law contacted her and told her, "A relative is likely to pass away soon, so stop having fun and come home." She hurried back, though it was not actually an emergency requiring an immediate hospital visit. Her husband also reportedly said, "I don't know why she's calling someone who is clearly having a good time."
A similar incident happened on a day when she planned to leave the children with her husband and have dinner with friends. Her mother-in-law called and said, "I have somewhere to go with my son, so take the children with you." In the end, A asked her friend for understanding and agreed to meet at her home instead. But her husband said, "What errand? There is no errand." He added, "She's just being petty, so you should go out and have dinner."
More recently, she heard something unexpected from acquaintances of her mother-in-law whom she happened to meet at a neighborhood cafe. According to A, her mother-in-law often tells acquaintances, "My daughter-in-law goes out every Saturday and Sunday," and "I'm worried she might run off with another man and abandon the children." She also reportedly said she was more concerned than her husband because A was younger and the family might fall apart. A said, "I already knew she was suspicious, so I wasn't surprised, but saying I go out every week was absurd."
A also recalled a past incident involving a fortune-teller's office. At the time, her mother-in-law said she had heard from a fortune teller and told A, "They said you don't have any men left now." A said, "I suddenly wondered whether she had gone around asking fortune tellers things like, 'Will my daughter-in-law cheat?'" She added, "My mother-in-law often asks, 'Where are you?' and now I even wonder if she's checking to see whether I brought a man home."
Most online commenters said the mother-in-law's interference had gone too far. One user suggested, "Tell the fortune teller that there is a divorce sign because of your mother-in-law." Another pointed out, "The husband is also a problem if he lets his mother police whether his wife meets friends."
Some commenters said they had experienced similar situations. One user said, "When my husband was on an overseas business trip and I tried to go to my parents' home, my mother-in-law once said, 'How do I know you won't leave the children behind and meet a man?'" Others, however, said, "If it only happens once every three or four months, can't you just understand it as an elder's concern?"


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