"My father insists I come"... Husband says he wants to spend one night at his hometown for Chuseok, leaving his pregnant wife behind [What do you think?]

[Financial News] A husband who said he wanted to make a one-night trip to his hometown in Busan for ancestral rites during the Chuseok holiday, leaving his heavily pregnant wife behind, asked for advice online and was instead met with sharp criticism from netizens after saying his wife was being unreasonable for not understanding.

A post titled "Chuseok holiday with a wife due to give birth" recently appeared on the marriage board of the anonymous workplace community NOW Talk. As of the 26th, it had drawn more than 13,000 views and about 360 comments, becoming a hot topic.
According to the author, identified as A, his wife is nine months pregnant and is expected to give birth naturally sometime between the last week of September and the first week of October. Her parents' home is about a 20-minute drive from the couple's newlywed home in the Capital Region, while A's hometown is in Busan.
A said, "Because her parents live nearby, we usually visit once or twice a month for dinner. During holidays, we normally go to my hometown two or three days early, spend the holiday there, stay one night at my in-laws' place, and then come home."
The issue arose because the expected delivery date overlaps with Chuseok. A explained, "My wife said we don't know what could happen, so last week we went down to Busan together once to pay our respects. I also planned to go down alone again about two weeks before Chuseok."
Even so, A admitted that he still wanted to go to Busan on the holiday itself. He said, "My father's health has worsened recently after he was diagnosed with dementia, and if I'm not there during the Chuseok holiday, the two of them won't be able to go to the graves together. My father said he really wanted me to come, so I can't stop thinking about it."
He added, "Even though I'm only saying I'll go for one night, my wife says I shouldn't go because what if the baby comes while I'm away. I feel like she's being too harsh for not understanding. Her family is nearby, so I think they could handle an emergency."
He continued, "I want to know whether I'm being unreasonable, or whether my wife is being cold."
In the comments, A also explained, "My younger brother's family lives near my parents' house, but they have two children, so all six of them can't fit in one car. I would have to drive them myself. This isn't about being obsessed with ancestral rites; it's for my father and mother."

Netizens who saw the story responded with little sympathy for A. One commenter pointed out that A said, "What bothers me most is that my father really wants me to come," and replied, "Doesn't it bother you that your wife said she doesn't want you to go?" That response drew more than 330 likes.
Other reactions included, "Are you saying your wife and baby are not the priority?" "At full term, the baby could come at any time," and "You say it's okay for you to be away because her family is close by for the delivery, but you still insist on going to your hometown for ancestral rites even though your younger brother lives nearby."
Many also pointed to the risks of childbirth. One commenter who said they were a nurse noted, "Even if a due date is set, no one knows exactly when the baby will come, and both the mother and the baby can suddenly become unstable at any time. Even if the delivery goes smoothly, the baby may still need to be admitted to the neonatal intensive care unit depending on its condition. With a holiday in the same month, this is a time to be even more alert, not less."
A's explanation that "my younger brother's family can't take my parents because their car is too small" also drew pushback. One reply that said, "Then your younger brother can just take your parents alone. Why are you trying to bring his two children too?" received more than 290 likes. Other comments said, "Your younger brother can just rent a six-seater," and "If the car is too small, at least pay for the rental."
Another comment that drew about 280 likes said, "You already went all the way to Busan in this summer heat with your heavily pregnant wife to pay respects, and you were even allowed to go down alone two weeks before Chuseok. Now, with the birth so close, you call it 'too much' when she says she hopes you won't go. When kindness keeps being extended, people stop appreciating it."
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