"Bring Your Grandchild Once a Week" — A Mother of a 6-Month-Old Baby Shares Her Worry [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A mother of a 6-month-old baby said she feels pressured by her in-laws’ demand that she bring the child over every week. She already visits them once or twice a month, but said they want weekly visits and even overnight stays.
On the 21st, a post titled "My in-laws want us to come over with the baby at least once a week" was uploaded to an online community.
The writer, identified as A, is raising a 6-month-old baby. She said she is preparing to send the child to a daycare center starting in September as she is due to return to work.
She said her in-laws visited her home frequently right after the birth. A said, "They came over very often when the baby was a newborn, and after the 50-day mark, we went to their house to show them the baby." She added, "When they came to our home, I had to tidy up and prepare at least a simple meal, which was inconvenient, so I asked them not to come over after the 50-day mark."
However, the pressure grew as her in-laws asked her to bring the grandchild over more often.
A said she received a message from her in-laws saying, "Bring the baby tomorrow because we promised to show the child to people in the neighborhood." But she had already made plans to meet friends with the baby.
A complained, "I told them I was meeting friends tomorrow and had planned to take the baby with me, but they said no and insisted that I bring the baby because they had promised to show the child to the neighbors."
She continued, "It is hard to drive back and forth for an hour each way, and I also could not cancel my plans, but they said I should come down on the weekend and show them the grandchild."
Her in-laws later reportedly contacted A’s husband separately and asked him to bring the baby over as well.
A said she still takes the baby to her in-laws’ home once or twice a month.
The baby’s reaction has also been a burden for her. She said the child cries intensely every time they visit her in-laws.
A said, "Strangely, the baby does not cry when meeting my parents or friends, and sleeps well in other people’s arms, but cries a lot in my in-laws’ arms." She added, "The baby’s face turns bright red and cries so hard it seems like the child might choke, which makes me very anxious and heartbroken."
But when A picked up the crying baby again, her in-laws reportedly said she had "raised the child the wrong way."
They also told her to bring the baby and stay overnight. A and her husband tried to stay at her in-laws’ home twice, but the baby kept crying and the living conditions were uncomfortable, so they eventually returned home.
A said, "My in-laws want us to come on weekends, but most of my friends and acquaintances are also only available on weekends," and "Even when I say it is hard to go every week, they still want us to come in the evening and stay overnight."
She said, "My baby is still too young, so I do not want to put the child in a car for an hour each way," and "I think going once or twice a month is already a lot."
She added, "For adults, a long distance is even farther for a baby, isn’t it?" and "I feel hurt because it seems they want us to bring the baby just so they can show the child off to the neighbors."

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