"Show It at the Wedding" Father-in-Law Wants to Play Late Mother-in-Law’s Video at the Ceremony [What Do You Think?]

[Financial News] A bride-to-be has shared her concerns after receiving a proposal to screen a video of her late future mother-in-law at the wedding ceremony. The groom’s father said he wanted to surprise the couple by showing a video the deceased had asked to be played when her son got married.
On the 25th, a post titled "My father-in-law wants to play my late mother-in-law’s video at my wedding" was uploaded to an online community.
The writer, identified as A, said she has been dating her boyfriend for a year and is preparing to marry him next year. Her boyfriend’s mother died of cancer in the past, and his father reportedly raised their only son without remarrying.
According to A, the groom’s father agreed to cover the full cost of the wedding. He also planned to give the congratulatory money to the couple, while the cost of buying an apartment for the newlyweds was to be split evenly with A’s parents.
The unexpected suggestion came during a recent dinner with her boyfriend and his father. While her boyfriend stepped away briefly, the father-in-law showed A a video and asked whether it could be revealed as a surprise at the wedding.
The video had been left behind by the future mother-in-law during her battle with cancer. She reportedly recorded about 20 videos, asking that they be shown when her son was struggling or on his birthday. One of them was meant to be played when he got married.
The video reportedly included messages such as, "Thank you for growing up so well. Mom will always cheer for you from heaven," "Daughter-in-law, thank you for marrying my son," and "Always be a dependable husband who puts your wife first."
A said she first replied that she would think about it. The father-in-law also said, "Don’t feel pressured," and did not force the issue. Still, A wrote, "A wedding is an important day for a new beginning, and I’m not sure it is right for a video of someone who has passed away to be shown."
She also worried that the mood on the wedding day could change. A said, "I don’t want to imagine my boyfriend and his father crying while watching the video," adding, "I also don’t want to be the one comforting my boyfriend on a day when I should be the center of attention. I don’t know if I’m being too cold, or if I should just take it in a positive way."
Online reactions were largely critical of A. One commenter said, "If my late mother had left a video to celebrate her son’s wedding, I would play it," and added, "Shouldn’t this be accepted as a way of showing consideration for the groom and his father?"
Some also criticized A for agreeing to receive financial support from the groom’s father for the wedding and the newlywed home, while still refusing only the video screening.


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