"Isn't it a blessing if they don't add you to the group chat?"... Family discrimination and a husband's indifference lead to a breakup [Decision to Separate]

[Financial News] A woman living abroad because of her husband's overseas posting is reportedly considering divorce after growing exhausted by her in-laws' repeated indifference and discriminatory treatment, as well as her husband's passive response.
According to News 1 on the 3rd, a post titled "I'm considering divorce overseas" recently appeared on an online community and drew strong attention from internet users. The writer, identified as A, said she has been living a lonely life in a foreign country and suffering from conflict with her in-laws, leaving her deeply conflicted about whether to continue the marriage.
According to A, the conflict with her in-laws began at the family introduction meeting during the wedding preparations. At the time, her in-laws ordered her parents to arrive "10 minutes early" in a condescending manner. Later, when A continued her studies locally because of her husband's overseas assignment, they hurt her by boasting that they were "sending the daughter-in-law abroad for school."
The one-sided demands continued during the wedding as well. Her mother-in-law pressured the couple to change the wedding date because of her sister-in-law's circumstances, and on the wedding day, she also sent part of the congratulatory money to the sister-in-law, saying she was struggling financially. Throughout these incidents, her husband stood by without offering any real protest or mediation to his family.
Even while living far away overseas, the sense of exclusion did not fade. Instead of contacting A directly, her mother-in-law pressured her son to tell her to "call the daughter-in-law."
What devastated A the most was the family group chat. Her in-laws, including her brother-in-law, created a group chat and actively communicated, even celebrating one another's birthdays. Yet A, the daughter-in-law, was the only one not invited. A said she felt deep doubt about "what my existence in this family even means."
After gathering herself and carefully sharing her feelings with her in-laws, she was only met with a dismissive response: "You're just being sensitive because you're lonely living abroad." In the end, A blocked her mother-in-law's contact number.
Believing it would be better to end the relationship before having children, A told her husband she wanted a divorce. Only then did he realize how serious the situation was. He knelt down, crying, and promised to "cut ties completely with my family." But A said she still wanted a divorce, explaining that she did not dislike her husband personally. Rather, she could no longer endure the family's distorted structure or her in-laws, and asked for advice.
Public opinion on the story was sharply divided. Many users supported the divorce, saying, "The in-laws are clearly at fault for disposing of the wedding money as they pleased and openly excluding the daughter-in-law, and the husband is the biggest enabler for letting it happen."
Others, however, argued that since she had gone abroad to avoid conflict with her in-laws, it was actually better not to be included in the group chat. Some also said, "The husband even said he would cut ties, so refusing to give him a chance is too harsh," adding that the couple should resolve the issue through conversation.

moon@fnnews.com Moon Young-jin Reporter