"There Was No Comfort or Condolence Money" ... Daughter-in-Law Hurt by In-Laws' Reaction After Her Father's Death

[Financial News] A woman who recently lost her father said she was hurt after receiving no words of comfort from her in-laws.
A post on an online community recently drew attention after a woman said she felt disappointed by her in-laws' reaction following her father's death.
The writer, identified as A, said her father passed away recently after a long battle with illness. In accordance with the family's wishes, the funeral was held privately without receiving mourners.
Before the funeral, her husband informed his family of the loss. A said he told them, "My father-in-law has passed away, and the funeral will be held as a private family service, so we will not be receiving visitors."
Although they knew it was a private family funeral, A expected at least a brief message of sympathy from her in-laws. She said she had hoped for words such as, "You must have had a hard time," "See your father off well," or "May the deceased rest in peace."
However, she said no one from her in-laws contacted her during the funeral. A stated that her mother-in-law only asked, three days after the funeral ended, whether her father had passed away, and that there were no words of comfort or condolence money at all.
A also recalled that she had personally paid her respects and given more than the usual amount of condolence money when her father-in-law died. She complained, "I thought it was only natural to do my part as family and put my heart into it, but when I lost my own father, there was no comfort or courtesy at all."
She said she received no comfort even when she told her husband how hurt she felt. A added that she was even more wounded when her husband got angry instead.
A said, "I was already deeply saddened by losing my father, but I could not even receive comfort or understanding from my closest family. It has become more than just disappointment; it has left a deep wound. I don't know how much more I am supposed to understand."
Among readers who saw the story, comments included, "Then don't attend any of your in-laws' family events either," "This is so far beyond common sense that it's ridiculous," "A husband raised in that kind of family can't be normal either," and "Cut ties with your husband's family."


hsg@fnnews.com Han Seung-gon Reporter