"You Gave Birth to the Child, So Why Should I Be Responsible?" Mother Refuses to Babysit Grandchild [What Do You Think?]

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\r\n[The Financial News] A working mother raising an 18-month-old child has reportedly been struggling with conflict after her own mother refused to help with childcare.
A post recently appeared on an online community under the title, "Am I being unreasonable for feeling hurt that my mother won't watch my grandchild?"
The writer, identified as A, introduced herself as part of a dual-income couple in their fifth year of marriage and said, "After raising a child, I realized the hardest part was time, not money."
A explained, "Even when we send the child to daycare, the child gets sick often and there are many times when we have to pick them up early." She added, "My parents live just 15 minutes away by car, and my mother had no special commitments after retirement, so I naturally expected some help."
But her mother’s position was firmly different. A said, "My mother had said before the baby was born, 'I may love my grandchild, but I won't do childcare.' I thought she was joking." She added, "But even when we truly needed help, she refused without hesitation."
On days when the child was too sick to go to daycare, her mother replied, "I already have plans with friends today." When the couple urgently asked for help because of a business trip, she refused again, saying, "I'm going on a trip."
In particular, on a day when her husband had a business trip outside the city and she had a presentation at work, their child developed a fever early in the morning. When she asked for help, her mother reportedly responded, "So?"
A said, "I asked her to watch the child for just one day, and my mother told me, 'Did you consult me when you decided to have a baby? Why should I bear the responsibility for your choice?'" She said she was deeply shocked.
She went on to say, "I'm not asking for financial support. I just want a little help when things are really hard, but if even that is too much, then I wonder what family means."
Her mother, meanwhile, reportedly said, "I sacrificed nearly 30 years raising you. Now I want to live my own life."
A's husband also reportedly said, "Your mother isn't wrong. The child we had is our responsibility."
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hsg@fnnews.com Han Seung-gon Reporter