"I Don’t Mind If He Cheats; The Assets Will Be Mine Anyway"...A Woman Who Married a Man 10 Years Older and Wealthier Shares a Bitter Confession [What Do You Think?]

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\r\n[Financial News] A post by a woman exposing the harsh reality behind so-called "marrying up," or marrying someone with much better financial standing, is drawing attention across online communities.
According to News1 on the 26th, the author, identified as A and said to be a graduate of a prestigious university in the humanities, began by saying, "It’s true that women with strong stomachs marry up." She said that as a child, she watched her parents constantly fight over money and decided she would escape crushing poverty.
A said she spent three years preparing for civil service exams in hopes of moving up socially, but failed. She eventually turned to a matchmaking agency and, five months after joining, met a wealthy husband more than 10 years her senior. She said she now lives as a full-time homemaker.
A said she enjoys material comfort now, but added that there is a harsh price behind it.
She confessed, "Marrying up means spending your whole life obeying your in-laws and your husband." She added, "After marriage, I have never once told my husband ‘I don’t like that’ or ‘I can’t do that.’ It feels like a slave’s life, where my husband’s word is law." She also revealed that she feels no romantic attraction to him, so even marital relations are carried out purely out of duty.
The stress caused by her relationship with her in-laws was, she said, beyond imagination. A added, "Before going to my in-laws’ house, I meditate for 30 minutes to control my anger, and I even take herbal calming medicine and digestive pills."
What saddens A most is that even her own parents must bow and scrape before her in-laws. While the in-laws see this as perfectly normal, A said the one thing that helps her endure all this humiliation is money.
She said, "No matter how much I hate it, it makes me sad to see my parents being treated that way. Sometimes I wonder, ‘Do I really have to live like this?’" She added, "But when I think about the assets I will inherit later, I feel better. I don’t mind if my husband cheats. In the end, the family’s assets will ultimately become mine."
In closing, A said, "Unless you are someone who developed a fierce survival instinct after a miserable childhood like mine, it would be hard to endure the downsides of marrying up." She added bitterly, "Unless money is unbelievably important to you, it is far happier to meet an ordinary person your own age and live through the ups and downs together."
Her blunt confession sparked heated debate online.
Some users sympathized with her choice, saying, "In a capitalist society, this can be understood as one fierce way to survive poverty," and "It is actually honest to take responsibility for one’s own choice and face reality coldly."
Most users, however, criticized her, saying, "Can a life that throws away human dignity and even a parent’s pride just for money really be happy?" "This is the bitter reality of a marriage based only on conditions," and "A marriage without love will end only in emptiness and mental exhaustion."
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moon@fnnews.com Moon Young-jin Reporter